Valentine’s Day may be over, but the season of love isn’t. Celebrating love isn’t limited to just one day—and it looks different for everyone. Some spend time with their significant others, some with family or friends, while others choose to celebrate their love for themselves by indulging in self-care. However, while love is in the air for many people, there are those who might see it as something they would want to avoid, especially if they’re going through their own “hugot.”
Here are some “hugots” that people tend to experience these days. If you relate to any of these, then hopefully our advice can help you get through it.
Being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back
Unrequited love is one of the most painful things that the heart can experience. You can love someone with all your heart, but no matter how strong you are, there’s no denying the pain you’d feel when the other person doesn’t feel the same. (And it can hurt even more if the person you’re in love with is a good friend.)
There’s no real way to fix this because you can’t just force anyone to reciprocate feelings, so the best step to take is to accept that it is what it is—the person you love doesn’t love you in return. But hey, it’s going to be okay. Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be, but that doesn’t mean it all ends there. If you got friend-zoned it’s okay to feel hurt, but don’t let your emotions get the better of you. The first step is to acknowledge how you feel, and the next is to do your best to move on from it.
Having regrets about breaking up with your ex
A breakup can be hard to process, especially if you had believed that you and your partner were set to spend the rest of your lives together. Whether the breakup was messy or not, it’s hard to avoid the feeling of guilt that develops shortly after.
If you’re having second thoughts about ending your relationship with your ex, take the time to pause and reflect. Breakups are difficult to deal with, but they could be necessary, especially if you feel that your relationship is no longer something that brings you happiness. Sure, letting go can be difficult even if it’s the best thing to do, but—and this is a hard pill to swallow—getting back together with your ex is not the way to fix it.
The best thing you can do to deal with this is to stop thinking about your ex. Don’t text them, don’t think about them, and don’t entertain the “what ifs” and the scenarios of what could’ve been if you never broke up. With that, here’s another pill that might be hard to swallow: You deserve better.
Fear of missing out on the romantic season because you’re single
Love has been celebrated for so long, and romcoms and romance novels have greatly contributed to hyping it up. However, it might have gotten to the point where some feel that they’re missing out on something special if they don’t have a significant other to spend the days with.
It might feel tough if you’re single, but here’s a friendly reminder: There’s so much more to life than finding a special someone. Besides, you don’t really need to feel left out just because you’re single. The season isn’t really all about the love between partners; it can mean many other types of love—love for your family, love for your friends, and love for yourself. As long as you take on this time to show your appreciation for the people you love, trust me, you’re not missing out at all.
Being in an LDR
A long-distance relationship can take a significant amount of care to make it work. Aside from the challenge of trust and commitment you need to invest, it can also get really lonely when you can’t have the love of your life by your side as often as you would like.
Expression of love is often depicted with going on dates with your special someone, like having a romantic, candlelit dinner or watching a movie with some cuddling. For those who are in LDRs, it’s kind of hard to make that happen. But hey, it’s okay. Relationships can look different for everybody. For some, it’s going on dates; for others, it could be in the form of long video calls that continue through the night as you catch up on how you’ve been doing and just having a nice, late-night talk with the person you love most. No matter the distance, it won’t make your love for one another seem small.
The feeling that your SO isn’t as invested in your relationship anymore
Many would say that love is in the air and it’s true—well, at least for most couples. If you’re in a relationship, most would expect that this is a very special season for you and your partner.
However, what is that strange feeling tugging at you from the inside? No, it doesn’t feel like the butterflies in your stomach that you would get whenever you see your partner. You might actually be aware of what it is that’s bothering you, but it might be a hard idea to process. You feel as though your partner doesn’t seem all that invested in your relationship anymore.
For a relationship to work, it takes time and effort. The moment one asks out the person they like, the dedication and commitment to them shouldn’t stop there. A relationship isn’t “happily ever after” because, unlike a fairy tale where the story ends when the protagonist and the love interest start dating, it keeps going. For a relationship to last long, you need to care for and nurture it with each passing day.
Just like in a relationship, you also need to take time and effort to take care of yourself. There are no shortcuts when it comes to love and care, be it in the context of keeping a relationship or in the context of self-love and self-care. To prevent everything from falling apart, you need to put in the effort to take care of things.
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If you feel that the “hugot” is coming in strong these days, watch this music video inspired by Ben&Ben’s song “Araw Araw” by Ben&Ben and remind yourself that you deserve better: